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Phubbing: ignoring people’s presence and concentrating on one’s phone

People can access smartphones with various social media applications. Image: Matheus Bertelli

In this era majority of the population can access smartphones with various social media applications – Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, WhatsApp, and Snapchat among others.

Catching up with the day’s global occurrence to connecting with friends, these sites have been a blessing to say but the least.

Days of diaries

Do you remember, in the past, when people used to write diaries and get mad when others read them?

Things changed and people will be angry if their social media posts aren’t read.

The shares, likes and comments play a significant role in validating users’ space in life with strangers. Based on this possessiveness, couples are all over the social media platforms involving outsiders in their love affairs.

Studies reveal that 90 percent of adults possess smartphones accessing plentiful applications with Facebook being the most popular site boasting over 1.5 billion users.

Having links to connect with a mass audience, according to the study, created the perception of happiness. Communication changed and by far dating ways transformed.

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Furthermore, different users have diverse needs on such online platforms including building an identity.

Nonetheless, certain users bring closer their love life or by extension – dirty linen.

Defining phubbing

With the level of interaction varying due to social media, phubbing – an act of ignoring people’s presence and instead concentrating on one’s phone or other’s phone – which previously was a nuisance has become the norm.

For many people, there is an indistinct boundary between online and offline or real-life relationships. Many got married through these social media platforms.

Social media addiction, a major family concern, is engaging users to explore online means to involve strangers in their lives without consideration impacts including the inability to solve a real problem but instead they opt for online frustration since they rarely pay close attention to their relationship.

Another study reveals that massive internet consumers perceive low-quality offline life and this contributes to engaging others into their lives.

For instance, most men or women who are fond of posting tiny details of their couples are regularly online on some of the social media sites.

A simple ‘I love you’ said by mouth could be difficult and impossible but they can pen down paragraphs of a similar case in the online world.

Furthermore, heavy internet users, especially social media have little or no valuable time for real-life situations and individuals.

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From this, you cannot be punished for saying that couples who constantly ‘show love and affection’ in posts and comments don’t depict the same offline. Such duo, in most cases, doesn’t express feeling and emotion face-to-face.

Love expression

Let us talk senses here. We all know people express love for their parents in their, let’s say, Facebook timeline.

But the parents are not anywhere near smartphones leave alone the internet and social media. By doing so, what value will that appreciation or expression post have?

The same case applies to other unnecessary personal information shared with the wrong audience. It all goes to social media addiction and steps away from reality.

Social media when used massively reduces quality time spent on loved ones. A person, going by certain study, will feel negative towards life and develop an irritating behaviour.

Even at home, heavy users of the platform may likely share little time with children. Smartphones and the internet replaced their entire life.

Wives and husbands express their ‘endless love’ to themselves and to the kids in social media platforms seeking ‘likes, comments and share’ while at home they cannot sit for a minute talking to themselves. Do you agree?

No longer satisfied with your life or feeling bad for what you have could be contributed to social media massive use.

Life comparison

Unluckily, people tend to compare their relationships to others and end up feeling depressed in their current relationship. In fact, people live in separate lives – online and offline.

People aren’t grateful for what they have because what they view on the internet is beyond their reach.

For instance, the fashion trend calls for couples to dress similarly, meaning doing so will approve happiness and joy.

Engraving such an idea in mind will possibly cause chaos in the marriage of partners who may not afford to dress so or one where a partner doesn’t see it important.

Needless to say, is that social media enables people of all walks of life to connect and form a new relationship but the existing relationship is impacted hugely.