As you mature, you may start thinking about having sex for the first time. In addition to this, you may be wondering how it feels; how to handle any anxiety that may accompany it, and how to be safe.
There are probably lots of things going through your mind if you are thinking about having sex for the first time. You may be wondering if your body will change or whether it will hurt.
Any body changes?
While having sex, you might breathe heavily and sweat, and your skin could become flushed. During sex, your vulva may also become swollen due to increased blood flow. After sex, your body will revert to normal, just like it would after exercise.
Most women are born with a hymen, which is a membrane in the vagina that can rupture or tear during exercise, first-time sex, or other activities.
Your hymen might tear, which could result in some bleeding, which can range from a few drops to 1–3 days of period-like bleeding. If you’re worried about bleeding, lying down on a dark-colored towel or cloth can prevent stains.
Does it hurt?
If you do feel pain, it is more than likely caused by friction. Friction during penetrative sex occurs when there isn’t enough vaginal lubrication to ease the entry of your partner’s penis.
Engaging in plenty of foreplay can stimulate the vagina to become more lubricated. Using lube can make intercourse more comfortable and enjoyable.
What about orgasm?
It’s possible for your first time. For many people, their first time is an awkward and somewhat uncomfortable affair. On top of that, both of you might be nervous.
Under circumstances like these, you will rarely achieve an orgasm. These is perfectly normal. In fact, sex itself without orgasm can also be quite enjoyable and might be a good way for you and your partner to connect further.
Pregnancy and first time sex?
There’s a myth in some societies that a woman cannot get pregnant when she has sex for the first time. This is false. If you already started getting your period, you can get pregnant if you have sex during your fertile days. If you’re not ready to have kids, you should use a birth control method whenever you engage in sexual intercourse.
How anxiety can be reduced?
- Being with someone you trust or have relationship with can help you feel safer or more in control of the situation.
- Consider having sex in a place you find comfortable.
- Foreplay which involves kissing and touching helps reduce your anxious feelings.
- Some people are racing to achieve orgasm. Taking your time and enjoying the journey can make sex a more relaxed and enjoyable experience.
- You can always try again later when you are feeling more comfortable. The best time to have sex is when you’re sure you want it, not when your partner wants you to.